One Of The Many Barriers in Life

The Fear Of Moving Forward 

Now, the real question is; are you willing to embrace a fresh new start? or are you going to allow your past experiences to determine your fate?

Living in fear and lack of self-confidence are the main reasons preventing us from taking a positive step. When we decide to live in self pity and start dwelling on what didn’t work out, on who hurt us or who rejected us and the mistakes we have made in our lives.

In this blog,  you will discover that “Destiny is not determined by the number of times we stumble but by the number of times we rise up, dust ourselves off and move forward”

You must let go of what didn’t work out by releasing the pain, the resentment, the disappointment and your failure.  There is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past but you can do something about the present. If you continue bringing the negative load from yesterday into today, it will definitely poison your future. You have to discard the situations of the past and move forward to the future; whether you’re going through a break-up, betrayal in life or some other failure. It is time to move on!  “Life is like riding a bicycle in order to keep your balance, you must keep moving”- Albert Einstein.  You must be eager to let go of the life you have planned before that did not work out so you can achieve the life that is waiting ahead of you.

From my personal experience, moving forward in life is about you accepting the past and learning from your mistakes and moving on with life which enables you to a have a fresh start.  Don’t be afraid to start over again because “Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently” As long as you are living in regrets and focusing on the negative things of the past, it’s going to keep you from the bright future that God has in store for you.

“I have faced many challenges, known hardship, been broken, been robbed and rejected from the only man I loved, the father of my five beautiful children. I have endured many sufferings” but here I am, standing tall and growing stronger day-by-day. Why? Because I realized that life is about moving on and accepting changes

Although for a period of months, I was bitter, hurt and full of regrets. I would sit and blame myself for allowing ‘him’ to use me without noticing his foul plans against me. I would often ponder on the thought of how I wasted twenty-two years loving a man that despised me. I wept for months until I had an epiphany. Then, I realized that the twenty-two years spent married were not quite a waste after all. In the midst of those years, God blessed me with five beautiful children. At that very moment, I began to see things in a new perspective thus reflecting on the countless blessings of God upon my life; my inner strength and self-confidence increased and I found peace and joy in my heart.

Here Are  Few Tips On How You Can Overcome The Fear Of Moving Forward

Showing Forgiveness And Trusting God

This has enabled me to have peace and joy in my heart, live a happily with my children, kept me stronger and motivated, gained more self-confidence and encouraged knowing that God has got me in the palm of his hands and my greatest victory is already  in front of me as long as I keep putting God first in my life and being my best each day, God will make every crooked way straight and get me to where I’m supposed to be.

Change Of Mind Set 

I was able to let go of all the negative thoughts in my head and I began to fill it with positive thoughts. The mind is so powerful, when you keep replaying negative experiences, you will see that the same bad emotion will start coming over and over again as if its just happened and this can lead to depression and cause you to remain stagnant. However, with positive thoughts in mind, you will realize that in the midst of difficulties, lies an opportunity, when one door closed, another door will definitely open, therefore, I ‘m not going to dwell on what went wrong, who hurt me or who rejected me and what was stolen from me; instead I will focus on the things that bring happiness, spend my time and energy on what is going to move me forward.

Live for the Moment 

Living for what today has to offer and not what yesterday has taken away.  This  has allowed me to focus on the life that is ahead of me.  As it is written in Philippians 3:13 “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended; but this one thing I do forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forth unto those things which are before”  Looking back on my life journey, I have concluded that all the struggles, pain and rejection happened because God was re- directing me towards something greater.

You may have encountered damaging experiences in life or gone through a rough start in life. Don’t let your circumstances hold you back, don’t let no obstacle, no challenges stop you from  whom God has create you to be.  Always remember , it is not how you started but how you finish that matters.  The  time is now, embrace New Beginning, New Mind Set, New Focus, New Intension and New Result. As you begin to let go and move forward, you will realise that moving on was the best decision you have ever made.

Remain Blessed

 

Developing Your Inner Strength

 

As an individual, there are times or days when you begin to feel drown by stress . This feeling can bring your mood to the lowest level. For instance when going through challenges at home or you lost your job or your spouse decided to walkout of your marriage, leaving you to take care of the children on your own without any assistance because he/she has found new love elsewhere. Friends, this life is unpredictable, it might be good today and tomorrow it hits you so hard that you begin to get depressed, get confused or even make you feel powerless and unable to function.

I know this from my personal experience. I have faced so many challenges in life and being optimistic about life has helped to overcome them one-by-one.  That is why I’m writing this to help you recover your “Inner Strength” all over again. I was a victim but I chose not to be knocked down on the inside because the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside, especially when you find yourself knocked down from the outside. Yes I did it! And you can do it too!!

Here Are 10 Tips On How To Recover Your Inner Strength In full

  1. Believe In Yourself – Self – belief would allow you to develop confidence and remain focus and positive in life. When you believe in yourself that you can do it, no one can ever stop you from getting it done. By believing in yourself, no negative situation can affect you. You would become more productive, you would not be afraid to try new thing and by doing so, all your set goals would be achieved. Believing in yourself would make you strong and courageous. A strong person would always stand up for his or herself. It might be scary at the beginning but the moment you begin to say “enough is enough” your heart will start to regain strength.
  2. Trust in God – Praying always and meditating in God’s words would remind you of his promises. “The people that know their God shall be strong and do exploits “(Daniel 11:32).“Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed; for the Lord thy God is with thee” (Joshua 1:9). Sing praise and worship songs even when you’re on your own because “The joy of the Lord is your strength”(Nehemiah 8:10),  This is one thing I love doing, singing praises and worshiping God at all times.
  3. Stop Listening To Negative Voices – Those voices inside your head telling you; you are not good enough”, “you can’t do it” and “you will never make it without them”. Life is not about everything being perfect – Tell those voices that “I’m bigger than the problem “and “I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me” (Phil 4:13) and “I ‘m more than conqueror”. When you are faced with challenges, there are three choices to make, you can either let it define you, or let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.
  4. Surround Yourself With Positive People – These people know your strength and they will remind you of what you can do, they will speak good words into you that would make your heart glad” (Proverbs 12:25). Because they know your worth and capability. I’m so blessed to have children and friends that totally believed in me. They encouraged, supported me and prayed with me through my darkest moment. A very big thank you to you all!
  5. Do Something That Will Increase Your Physical Level – Make every effort to do exercise, go for a walk, or go running, take swimming lessons or join the gym, eat healthy food, sleep well and drink lots of water daily.
  6. Make Yourself Happy – Do whatever it takes to make yourself happy because there is no way you can make others happy if you’re not happy with yourself. Don’t let your happiness depend on others. I know sometimes, people do wish to be like someone else because they hate the way they were made or created. Stop hating your body or your face. Appreciate who you are because without those things you wouldn’t be you. Take good care of yourself and always dress in way that makes you feel confident and happy. Smile more “When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile”
  7. Be Compassionate And Respectful – Show love and care to people around you and everyone you meet should be treated with respect. Be kind to people you encounter whether strangers on the street, co-workers, classmates or family members
  8. Do Something Creative – Volunteer to help people in need, enroll yourself in a course and make sure you finish it no matter the grade that you   might think you may have. Just do it! Because time goes very fast and your heart will start to strengthen over time.
  9. Do Not Be Ashamed To Speak Out – Talk about your emotional feeling to the people you can trust because holding it to yourself can cause more damage to your health. Cry if you want and wipe your tears; then move on with your life.
  10. Read Books or Listen To Motivational Stories – There are so many people who have experienced hard times in their lives and they have achieved a great success. For example, people like Oprah Winifreys, Maya Angelous, J.K Rowling, Sandi Krakowski, Stephen King, Richard Branson, Tony Robbins and any so many more.

Thank you so much for reading and I hope this post encourages you to take these steps into consideration.

Remain Blessed

 

My Little Introduction!

Hello! My name is Blessing Njekwe, mother of five children. I am currently living in the UK. I am passionate about new ventures and very keen in helping individuals discover their full potential and become more successful in any situation whether in their personal lives or in their businesses.

The aim of this blog is to empower and inspire every individual to discover their inner strengths and how to move forward to achieving them. I will be writing about changing mindset from negative to positive. Furthermore, expanding on the points on how to discover your path in life, Overcome Fear, Rejection, Procrastination, Healthy Lifestyle and about Living Dot Com Lifestyle/Making money online and what actions must occur in order to achieve them.

For further information feel free to contact me for any enquirers and I will get back to you as soon as I can. Comments and suggestions are more than welcome.
Thank you!
Remain Blessed