The Fear Of Moving Forward
Now, the real question is; are you willing to embrace a fresh new start? or are you going to allow your past experiences to determine your fate?
Living in fear and lack of self-confidence are the main reasons preventing us from taking a positive step. When we decide to live in self pity and start dwelling on what didn’t work out, on who hurt us or who rejected us and the mistakes we have made in our lives.
In this blog, you will discover that “Destiny is not determined by the number of times we stumble but by the number of times we rise up, dust ourselves off and move forward”
You must let go of what didn’t work out by releasing the pain, the resentment, the disappointment and your failure. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past but you can do something about the present. If you continue bringing the negative load from yesterday into today, it will definitely poison your future. You have to discard the situations of the past and move forward to the future; whether you’re going through a break-up, betrayal in life or some other failure. It is time to move on! “Life is like riding a bicycle in order to keep your balance, you must keep moving”- Albert Einstein. You must be eager to let go of the life you have planned before that did not work out so you can achieve the life that is waiting ahead of you.
From my personal experience, moving forward in life is about you accepting the past and learning from your mistakes and moving on with life which enables you to a have a fresh start. Don’t be afraid to start over again because “Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently” As long as you are living in regrets and focusing on the negative things of the past, it’s going to keep you from the bright future that God has in store for you.
“I have faced many challenges, known hardship, been broken, been robbed and rejected from the only man I loved, the father of my five beautiful children. I have endured many sufferings” but here I am, standing tall and growing stronger day-by-day. Why? Because I realized that life is about moving on and accepting changes
Although for a period of months, I was bitter, hurt and full of regrets. I would sit and blame myself for allowing ‘him’ to use me without noticing his foul plans against me. I would often ponder on the thought of how I wasted twenty-two years loving a man that despised me. I wept for months until I had an epiphany. Then, I realized that the twenty-two years spent married were not quite a waste after all. In the midst of those years, God blessed me with five beautiful children. At that very moment, I began to see things in a new perspective thus reflecting on the countless blessings of God upon my life; my inner strength and self-confidence increased and I found peace and joy in my heart.
Here Are Few Tips On How You Can Overcome The Fear Of Moving Forward
Showing Forgiveness And Trusting God
This has enabled me to have peace and joy in my heart, live a happily with my children, kept me stronger and motivated, gained more self-confidence and encouraged knowing that God has got me in the palm of his hands and my greatest victory is already in front of me as long as I keep putting God first in my life and being my best each day, God will make every crooked way straight and get me to where I’m supposed to be.
Change Of Mind Set
I was able to let go of all the negative thoughts in my head and I began to fill it with positive thoughts. The mind is so powerful, when you keep replaying negative experiences, you will see that the same bad emotion will start coming over and over again as if its just happened and this can lead to depression and cause you to remain stagnant. However, with positive thoughts in mind, you will realize that in the midst of difficulties, lies an opportunity, when one door closed, another door will definitely open, therefore, I ‘m not going to dwell on what went wrong, who hurt me or who rejected me and what was stolen from me; instead I will focus on the things that bring happiness, spend my time and energy on what is going to move me forward.
Live for the Moment
Living for what today has to offer and not what yesterday has taken away. This has allowed me to focus on the life that is ahead of me. As it is written in Philippians 3:13 “Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended; but this one thing I do forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forth unto those things which are before” Looking back on my life journey, I have concluded that all the struggles, pain and rejection happened because God was re- directing me towards something greater.
You may have encountered damaging experiences in life or gone through a rough start in life. Don’t let your circumstances hold you back, don’t let no obstacle, no challenges stop you from whom God has create you to be. Always remember , it is not how you started but how you finish that matters. The time is now, embrace New Beginning, New Mind Set, New Focus, New Intension and New Result. As you begin to let go and move forward, you will realise that moving on was the best decision you have ever made.